By Sibongile of Zedian Naturals
Some of you natural heads know what I am talking about.
The moment you accept and embrace whatever grows out of your head.
For some, maybe over a longer period of time.
For me…it was one moment.
And so you are excited…diving into information, products, techniques and all things natural hair.
You share it with others…be it family, friends, acquaintances…and the natural hair nod at a stranger rocking a banging natural hair do.
Once it clicks…your confidence shoots through the roof because not only have you accepted your kinks and coils, you are happy that you have kinks and coils.
That not only is it okay to have kinks and coils…it is actually a beautiful thing.
Then you show this new found confidence.
And you are thrilled to say you love your natural hair…on Facebook or Twitter or an email or a face to face conversation.
Some eyes roll…heads shake.
Muttering…”Here we go again…”
“It’s just hair”
You see for me…it is not…just hair.
It is bigger than that.
Growing up…these kinks weren’t good enough.
They were not good enough to rock at work.
Or a party.
Or a wedding.
Or at that NRC photo session where in order for you to rock it as a loose afro or as locs, you needed an artist “pass”.
Yep…that was my reality.
I lived in a world where you wearing your natural hair could also be as an interpretation of your socioeconomic status. In this vein of thought, natural hair =poor=villager=dirty etcetera.
You see…when you live in a society that views the opposite of most of your true natural features as being better or prettier or more beautiful, you will find it hard to see your “unconventional” features as beautiful as well.
Where the unspoken rules of beauty include…
Lighter skin is better than darker skin.
Small, narrow nose is better than a big, flat and wide nose.
Relaxed hair is better…prettier…neater…cooler…more acceptable…than your God given natural hair.
So yep…it was that deep for me.
To finally realise that my natural hair was droolicious?
That was an awesome feeling.
When did you realise your natural hair was awesome?
Loads of Hair Love,