The Importance of Being Patient (Part 2)

Friend 2: Good Hair versus midnight decision-making… and the Barber

  • has kept her hair short for the last 7 years or so
  • used to color and texturize frequently (sometimes as often as twice a month)
  • likes to switch up her look often
  • used to visit the barber’s chair every 2 weeks
  • chopped off all the damage in April 2011 and was growing out her natural hair, leaving it in the cute coils but using “Sun-In” bleaching hair spray to get blond tips on the ends of her springs
Friend 2 got bored and tired of her hair, plus as it grew out, the springs and tight curls were getting harder to comb much less manage. With her hair about 3 inches long, she decided late one night that she was done with the natural look and ran to a nearby 24hr Walgreens, bought a box of texturizer and “straightened” her hair.
Problem was, now she had straightish, but still curly/wavy 3 inch hair all around her head. Not sure how best to manage her hair, she wore a wig for about a week but then tired of that and trolled online for a cute short hairstyle. Finding inspiration in Nia Long (see picture below), she went to the barbershop armed with this picture and sat down to have her hair cut/styled by her regular barber. I went with her for moral support.
The barber was slow and deliberate but once he took his clippers to the side of her head, I knew we were in trouble. I wanted to say something and tried to warn her to be cautious and aware of what was happening but apparently my messages were not accurately received. The barber ended up giving her a very serious fade, taking off all the hair in the back and sides and leaving her with a table cut, granted curly on the top, but still a table cut. Interestingly it was a variation of the exact haircut he’s been giving her the last 3 or 4 years.
She was notably upset that too much hair had been taken off and she didn’t get the effect/look she wanted. I pointed out that she probably should have gone to a hairstylist and not a barber, and this short pixie cut is typically a specialty of the Caucasian community (Ginnifer Goodwin, Emma Roberts, Michelle Williams, Kiera Knightly and some others) and so she might have been better off, blowing out her hair and going to a Cost Cutters, or at least some place where she could get her hair cut and not barbered.
Friend 2’s growing her hair out again to see if she can get the pixie cut done right.
As an aside, I have had my hair cut by a number of different people and in terms of styling, I have found that when I want a styled cut and not just a trim, I have better luck with a Caucasian hairstylist than an African-American hairstylist– just my observation. Ironically the opposite is true, when I need a trim, my African-American hairstylist typically does a better and more thorough job than a Caucasian hairstylist. Interesting.
Lessons Learned:
  1. Sleep on decisions that are made at or around midnight before acting on them.
  2. Your regular hairstylist is not always the best person to do your hair.
  3. Once you make a decision on your hair that involves other people having to do your hair, make the effort to find the appropriate person/people to do the job well. BE PATIENT and do it right the first time!

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