I can’t go back now!

April 4, 2010 – I turned 28 and had my last relaxer, ever.
December 31, 2010 – After transitioning for several months, got the relaxed ends of my hair cut off.
January 1, 2011 – the first full day as a natural head on my latest journey towards a lifetime without processed hair.

The decision to go natural was quite uncomplicated for me – I had made my personal goal of having healthy, shoulder length hair after my last big chop and I was tired of spending money on relaxers. So, really what did I have to lose?

To minimise the chances of quickly reverting back to relaxed hair, I started reading blogs and forums dedicated to natural hair care. I knew that my knowledge of natural hair was quite rudimentary, and to tell myself otherwise would be a recipe for disaster. I had a lot of learning to do.

To be quite honest, a lot of my learning centred on dispelling myths and my own irrational fears. I already knew that my hair craves moistures, not jars of oil! But I had to come to terms with the fact that my hair is MY hair; the way it grows out of my head is not an abomination to be punished in every which way.

In a nutshell, I needed to make peace with the fact that natural hair IS good hair.

So, this is not an act of militancy or rebellion or a means for me to feel more African (if there’s such a thing). I am simply embracing my hair in its natural state as bequeathed to me by my maker. In the same way that I coddled my relaxed tresses, I do the same with my little ‘fro.

I have had a few moments of panic as I feel the little coarse curls, but I know it is all part of the learning process. I am an adult learning things that should be second nature to me, and it’s only natural (no pun intended) that I would question the wisdom of my actions from time to time until it becomes a non-issue.

Wish me well!


One response to “I can’t go back now!

  1. i’ll soon be going into my 8th month of transitioning and im loving (already) how my natural roots are responding to the loving care i am patiently bestowing. Embrassing how hair grows out of your head is great!


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